Episode 13

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31st Mar 2026

S3 E13 - Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive

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“It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway.

Season 3, Episode 13, Topic: Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive

This episode is dedicated to hope, and more specifically the many things we all can do to help keep hope alive for the sake of our own wellbeing.

QUICK TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE:

Core Definitions

• Optimism: A temperament-based expectation that things will work out; fragile under sustained adversity

• Hope (Snyder): The intersection of goals, perceived pathways, and personal agency; does not require certainty

• Active Hope (Joanna Macy): Hope as a practice, not a feeling — chosen and cultivated regardless of circumstance

• Radical Hope (Jonathan Lear): Hope directed toward a good that cannot yet be fully imagined or articulated

• The Stockdale Paradox (Jim Collins): Holding two truths simultaneously — unflinching honesty about difficulty + unshakeable conviction that you will prevail

The Six Practical Tools

1. Curate your information diet — protect your hope reservoir

1. Pursue micro-wins — restore your sense of agency

2. The Stockdale Practice — hold both truths at once

3. Radical presence + the Best Possible Self exercise (Laura King) — rebuild the mental architecture of hope

4. Use the “yet” factor — refuse finality in your self-talk

5. Choose connection — hope is contagious and is rarely a solo project

Listener Challenge

Carry out one act of connection or bridge-building before the next episode: a real conversation, a volunteer hour, a letter, or a moment of genuine curiosity with someone whose life looks different from yours.

Suggested Further Reading

Radical Hope: Ethics in the Face of Cultural Devastation — Jonathan Lear (Harvard University Press)

Active Hope: How to Face the Mess We’re In Without Going Crazy — Joanna Macy & Chris Johnstone

Hope in the Dark — Rebecca Solnit

Good to Great — Jim Collins (Stockdale Paradox chapter)

The Psychology of Hope — Charles R. Snyder

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About the Podcast

It Matters How We Treat One Another
The Social Science Show
Our name says it all; it matters how we treat one another. Our show is set in the realm of social science, but that simply means that we utilize science to better help you understand how people interact with one another. At its heart, this show is about improving our relationships on interpersonal, societal, and global levels. Segments include Inspiring News, Interviews, and The Takeaway.
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Matthew Vasko

Matthew David Vasko has a degree in communications and psychology and works professionally as a writer, speaker, and educator. He is a Credentialed Religious Educator, Advanced Level, in the Unitarian Universalist faith tradition. Matt has a passion for the social sciences and positive psychology and has worked professionally as an actor, comedian, and host.